If I leave the bios settings on auto the ram is set to a lower frequency(800) by default so I have to manually set it, but all the settings I've made aren't over the ram's recommended settings (1066 5-5-5-15 2T 2.1v) I haven't experimented yet with other manual settings, leaving everything on auto makes no difference, it works with 2gb it doesn't with 4gb.
I found other people with exactly the same mobo and ram and almost exactly the same problem:
http://vip.asus.com/forum/view.aspx?id= ... uage=en-us
The only difference is I can't make it boot with 4gb, while this guy says he is able to boot sometimes. What I find very weird is the fact that it worked for almost 1year perfectly with 4gb.
I'll probably go tomorrow to the shop and see if they'll exchange my ram for similar ram from another brand.
Updated the bios to latest version still the same thing.