[SpA]ProtectMyBalls wrote:
Nadin seeing rape without prior knowledge of the scene's context just says more about how own personal perception of the world.
She called it correctly, if you mean she's more perceptive, empathetic and accurate then sure I'll agree.
[SpA]ProtectMyBalls wrote:
The reason I bring up the violence issue, was OUT OF CONTEXT, with no violent elements to be seen in a short 5 second clip and no prior knowledge of the narrative before and after the scene, my mind doesn't instant wander to the possibility of rape, because the non-violent depiction of rape is a lot harder to convey in 5 seconds worth of footage.
I guess again this has to do with experience and ability to read people and situations.
[SpA]ProtectMyBalls wrote:
You don't have to condensed to me
No sure and your right, I'm sorry I did and may well continue to. It seems however that you have no idea at all at the scale of personal pain you're walking into, its not a simple issue and I've said before that I find humour in there, but a lot of what you've written seems to belittle the trauma of an act experienced by an
estimated 1 in 5 women world wide. You can suggest that out of context its funny but if we'd said that clip was used as court evidence of real spousal abuse, would it be so funny then? Don't get me wrong here I'm not saying that all things are to be taken that seriously or to that extent what I'm saying is context matters, it matters a lot more than you'd think it would especially about something so awful.
For context: I interviewed an 11 year old prostitute in cambodia who struggled for hours stuttering, stammering unable to find the words to describe the worst kind of abuse you'll ever hear she then lifted her t-shirt to show a massive curved scar, later, while alone, she cut herself turning the scar into the shape of a butterfly; I cleaned it and dressed the wound and she made joke about the pain flying away she was so calm and clear and precise that for the contrast and the relief we laughed, we nearly died laughing, not funny really but in that moment it was; out of context I found child mutilation as the result of rape and abuse to be funny.
Its not an easy subject to find humour in and it can't be done with any kind of cavalier attitude and the best thing to do when you have upset people is to apologise especially when its something that you seem to have the least experience of or have any real chance of experiencing in that way. Its a lack of empathy from (mostly) men about this that's terrifying. I can go on about it but I dont think its really productive too, maybe I'll write something about it someday.
[SpA]ProtectMyBalls wrote:
I just don't appreciate people making snap judgements, and making remarks that don't into account the subjective nature of different peoples perceptions.
I honestly don't think anyone did, bar me and you. I apologise but there's a line for me and I doubt it was with malice of forethought or intent but it really pushed some buttons with me, and it crossed that line. I apologise for those comments and the condescending tones, you understand my reasons, I guess.
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